The newborn child is thirsty for attention and needs love, support and guidance in his discovery of the world.
You see and confirm the child by talking a lot with the child. Wrap it with all the beautiful words you know. Meet its looks and respond to all its bodily expressions of presence with your mines. Touching the baby’s body as something very valuable, which you respect. The infant, who in front of your eyes delighted and eagerly splatters and cranks with arms and legs and satisfied “talking”, has met the core point of life, the affection. Share with the child the warmth you feel about it. The child needs to feel all your own desire for life!
To support the sense of discovery
Children must gradually be given the opportunity to conquer their surroundings and reality, to be stimulated to seek and orient themselves. Give the child the opportunity to look around with his eyes, but limit the stimulation when the child needs to sleep.
When the child eventually starts to move around “for his own machine”, then cope with all such steps a child takes, but be sure to guarantee the little child your protection as security.
Do not let it be overwhelmed by strong and immediate changes in its surroundings that can seem daunting. Invite the child to go and investigate what is “behind the corner”. The child dares if you give it your assurance: “Go and look. Dad / Mom are here. It is not dangerous.”
Give positive signals
It is you as a parent who in this way tells the child if its surroundings are a place that the child can dare to take part in – or if one has to take care and be anxiously cautious. Be careful about your own expressions of anxiety so that you do not pass these on to the child. If the child often hears and experiences your concerns: “Beware. Oh! It’s dangerous! You can do yourself wrong! ” the child may be inhibited and waited in relation to his or her surroundings.
Of course, you have to make sure that the child is not harmed, but it is better to protect the child by clearing the child’s world of things that are actually dangerous and helping the child to carefully examine his or her surroundings than to “curse” for the child to make mistakes. That experience becomes easily disqualifying and conveys unnecessary doubt to the child before their actions.
Of course, you cannot protect your child from scraping your knees from time to time to the hard floor of reality and you should give comfort. But try to comfort the child with an attitude that says, “Soo, soo, it wasn’t the whole world”.
You do not deny the child their strong experience, but show confidence that what has actually happened is not the whole world. If you go too deep into the child’s experience, the child quickly learns to interpret your own anxiety as its own and the aggravation becomes even worse.
To guide the child
Of course, it takes a lot of attention from the parent to try to predict what might happen in the next step, but it is definitely an “investment” in time and power to guide the child into his world rather than trying to prevent constant “fire-fog expressions” all accidents.
It is in the child’s nature to investigate and explore everything that comes in its way. We adults, who may feel stressed and who do not have the time to guide the child into their world, may feel that it would be better if the child sat neatly in his corner and “played nicely” instead of “being on everything “and pick. But the child must orientate himself in his world and all his energy is focused on this, to learn something about the world.
The more time you devote to stimulating and affecting the child’s natural exploration, the easier it is to avoid what you experience as the child’s “closeness”. What the child does not have access to naturally, it must “steal” the opportunities, take the opportunity as soon as the parent has the attention elsewhere.
Have a great first time with your little one!
Important everyday tips!
- Show in every way that your child is the best there is for you. Read more about secure connection.
- Stimulate and help the child to explore his or her surroundings, so you do not have to complain that it should “not touch everything”.
- Try to spare the child from perceiving your own anxiety. Children need adults who can reasonably maintain calm and provide security. It is a protection against not losing oneself in concern.