When the uterus drops slightly it becomes easier to breathe again. But the downward pressure, towards the bladder, probably means that you have to pee more and more often.
You may have richer removals now. It is good to check that it is not amniotic fluid that seeps out – consult your midwife. Holes in the amniotic membranes are a risk of infection for both you and the child.
The uterus has dropped a little now, and it probably feels easier to breathe. In return, you may need to go and pee more often as the pressure against the bladder increases.
Sometime during the next few weeks, the baby’s head will usually fix itself in the pelvic entrance. It usually happens a little earlier if you are a firstborn and later if you have given birth to a baby before.
If the child lies with the tail down, you will want to make an attempt to turn the child.
Talk through the coming birth with natural or medical pain relief.
If you are going to give birth on your own, you can talk to a friend, parent or hire a doula. A doula is a person who has given birth to a child himself and whom you feel confident in. Doulan comes along as a support during childbirth.
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Feel free to go through the birth letter you have written and make a reconciliation with your midwife.
Inside the stomach, the baby continues to digest its digestive system by swallowing amniotic fluid, peeing it and so on.
At the beginning of the last month of pregnancy, the baby usually weighs just under 3000 grams, but the weight varies more between different children now than at the beginning of pregnancy. Boys usually weigh a little more than girls. Similarly, child number two usually weighs a little more than the first child.
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Does birth have to hurt?
This is a chronicle with tips from Gudrun Abascal, midwife and author.
Does it have to hurt to have children? Yes. It hurts to give birth to children. So the first preparation is to accept that the pain is always involved in giving birth to children.
If you have accepted the pain as a phenomenon, it will be much easier to face it. Can you also see it as a tool to get you through the birth, which eventually leads to a fantastic reward – a child! – then the pain will also be manageable.
Now don’t think that I think all women should give birth to children without pain relief, because that’s not the case. It is because there are no painless deliveries.
Today we can go out into space, to the moon and then back again. We have also made tremendous advances in the world of medicine, such as heart transplants that give us people a longer life. But what we have not yet come up with is the perfect pain relief method that suits all women and that has no side effects for the woman or child.
Therefore, I think that every woman who is going to give birth needs to prepare to face the pain based on the unique person she is. With or without pain relief, she should not be evaluated afterwards based on which method she used.
When you give birth to your child, you must be “who you are” without any demands from the surroundings, the only challenge you have is to meet yourself. Then you may ask: Is it possible to prepare yourself for the pain?
Pain is difficult to prepare for in all situations. Some women can and do want to prepare, others do not.
During all my years as a midwife I have not met two women who have had exactly the same experience of their pain. If you divide the pain from three different perspectives, the biological pain, the emotional pain and then how we assess the pain, then you have a greater understanding of why it is becoming, and thus can better prepare.
The biological pain
We probably have this in common with the animals. The biological pain is that we have pain receptors and nerves in the body that convey the pain to the brain.
The emotional pain
When we get to the emotional pain, this is where we women really stand out. How we feel emotionally affects our experience of pain:
If you feel anxiety, anxiety, fear, lack of trust in the environment, then of course the pain increases.
If you feel calm, confident and have confidence in the people in your area, you will handle the pain better. If you think that “it hurts, but I will not be afraid”, the pain does not cause any suffering. So it is not the pain itself that becomes the problem, but the suffering.
How you assess the pain depends on – yourself
Assessing the pain is also of great importance if the pain becomes a suffering or not. How we assess and evaluate the pain depends largely on what we carry with us from the life we have lived.
Based on our life experience, there are thoughts like “What causes the pain?”, “What can I expect from the pain?” and “What significance does it have for me?”
These thoughts I think all women carry with them into their birth. It is important that you can give yourself good answers to these thoughts about what pain means, such as “It really is a force that helps me to give birth”.
The pain is also a messenger and tells you what to do: Seek yourself in a safe place (childbirth clinic), ask for support from people in your area that you trust and so on.
Try to accept the pain of childbirth as “right now it is completely normal”, do not interpret it as pain in other situations in life, “a threat to life”.
If you then feel that you need help with some kind of pain relief during childbirth, it is your fault. Your decisions must be respected by everyone.
As long as the pain during labor is understandable, you will also be able to cope with it, yes it can then be meaningful and not cause any suffering.
What we, standing next to you, can do is to show that we exist for you only, to be attentive to your specific needs. and give you the support, confirmation and help you need.
We at your side also want to show you that we have complete confidence that you are fully competent to give birth to your child.